Lessons Shared from Miscarriage

I confess, I have never figured out a more attractive way to share blog posts from outside websites. If you have any insight for this, please let me know!

I saw this blog post on The Gospel Coalition website today and her 5 Lessons from miscarriage are totally on point, as far as my experience goes. I just needed to pass it on to anyone needing to hear them — and the writer, Abbey Wedgeworth, published this post this morning, just two days after learning her baby has passed away, before even fully miscarrying. I think that makes it all the more powerful for the struggling reader! I recommend some of her other recent posts on this subject, found on her own blog. For example, this one on “‘Should Be,’ ‘Would be,’ and the Hope of what ‘Will be.”

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Abide with me

I cherish this song. The call of Christ’s words, “Abide with me” rings so beautifully in the quiet struggle of a trial. In it, I also hear the call of a disciple crying the same thing to Him: “Oh Lord, I need you. Abide with me.”

May you seek to abide with Him every single day. It’s not a one-time choice you’ll make. It’s a choice every morning, and often several times throughout the day. And may peace overwhelm you as you know He abides with you and within you.

“Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. ” –John 15:4-5

Growth is in the suffering, not the joy

“Jesus learned obedience from the things which He suffered, not by the things which he enjoyed.” [p.78]

I have been learning that our spiritual maturity is more likely to come from times of difficulty (momentary things like disagreements with coworkers, as well as big things like grieving a death) than times of ease. I’ve come to see there is a biblical truth to thinking that times of peace and “all is well” are more to be seen as the exception, and times of trial and suffering and needing to believe “all is well” are to be expected as the norm for the Christian life. I need a healthy mind and heart that is ready and expecting bumps in the road and not dreading and cursing them. They are welcomed catalysts for my growth. I need them. My faith is weak without them.

I’ve been sharing quotes from Elisabeth Elliot’s book Keep a Quiet Heart. Please share your thoughts! 

The God who is enough

Quoting Amy Carmichael (by the way, Elisabeth Elliot is my hero, Amy Carmichael was hers… reading her books makes me want to read more about Amy Carmichael!):

“Praise Him for the moonless seas—all the better the opportunity for proving Him to be indeed the El Shaddai, ‘the God who is Enough.’” [page 57]

He goes with us

“He goes with us through the valley, the deep water, the furnace. He will never, absolutely never, leave us or forsake us.” [page 55]

Obviously, this isn’t her original thought. See:

Isaiah 43:2

 When you go through deep waters,
    I will be with you.
When you go through rivers of difficulty,
    you will not drown.
When you walk through the fire of oppression,
    you will not be burned up;
    the flames will not consume you.

And

Deuteronomy 36:1

So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For theLord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.

Both verses are from the New Living Translation. The top quote is from Elisabeth Elliot’s book Keep a Quiet Heart.

Once surrendered

“If my life is once surrendered, all is well. Let me not grab it back, as though it were in peril in His hand but would be safer in mine.” [page 53]

I’ve been sharing some meaningful quotes from Elisabeth Elliot’s wonderful book Keep a Quiet Heart. Let me know what you think! 

The worst pains

“The worst pains we experience are not those of the suffering itself but of our stubborn resistance to it, our resolute insistance on our independence.” [page 51]

This was me, you guys! As those months started adding up and it was becoming clear that we were in the midst of a trial of infertility, I remember crying in agony to my husband, “I don’t want this to be our story!” My heart just kept thinking, No no no no no — this cannot be happening! 

I was so resistant to accept what was happening, it took months to start really growing from it. Looking back, I wish I could appear to myself back then. I can clearly see those times of lying on my bed weeping for the grief and dread of what was going on: we were meeting barrenness. We were not going to be pregnant “on time” (according to our plans, that is). The Lord was going to do something different. I wish I could put my own hand on my shoulder and say, “This is a good story! God is doing good things! Don’t miss it because you’re stubborn about the story you think you want!”

The quote is from Elisabeth Elliot’s book Keep a Quiet Heart.

Maybe this year

“Maybe this year will be the year of desire fulfilled. Perhaps, on the other hand, it will be the year of desire radically transformed, the year of finding, as we have perhaps not yet truly found, Christ to be the All-Sufficient One, Christ the ‘deep, sweet well of Love.’” [page 49]

I’ve been sharing some powerful quotes from Elisabeth Elliot’s book Keep a Quiet Heart. Let me know what you think!

The most dreaded thing

“What we judge to be ‘tragic – the most dreaded thing that could happen,’ I expect we’ll one day see as the awesome reason for the beauty and uniqueness of our life as a family.” [page 30]

I appreciate this thought so much. It was written to Elisabeth Elliot from a woman who was born disabled. She was offering some wisdom to a third woman who had a disabled baby. I have found we need to understand this wisdom before “the most dreaded thing” happens. When those thoughts of “What if…” and “I couldn’t handle it if that happened to me” pop up, as they are bound to do, we need to remind ourselves of the truth: If it happens, God would use it. If it happens, God will have ordained it. What great quietness of heart there is in that truth, if only we believed it fully!

This quote is from the book Keep a Quiet Heart by Elisabeth Elliot.